" Tu esti pentru mine relatia necesara. Toti ceilalti sunt intamplatori."
Jean-Paul Sartre
Intimacy is strongly yearned for. It is confidence placed within
affection; it is the performance of intense passion, which is defined by our
animated presence.
When I meet a man I’m interested in, I wonder if he would be able
to attain familiar affection. I’d prefer to take it easy at first, absorbing
each other’s skin and fitting into one another’s body. There are limitations
and sex is something that takes a while, but once it flourishes, then the real challenge
within the relationship, begins.
Connecting with a man of interest is my first step. I like taking
the time to actually learn about a man I’m attracted to. Tell me your story, your past. I want to know who you are, who you
were, how you got here. If the lines of communication are clear and each
person is gradually learning about the other, then sex will be amazing.
The act of declaring yourself while acknowledging your lovers self, will inevitably,
grant for great love. I truly believe that.
Sex is the second most important aspect in a relationship. The way
that partners enjoy their private assembly, is crucial. Excitement is
necessary. Keep the lover intrigued because sex is the one,
certain way for two people to solidify their love. It’s a sure step. Don’t
stall; become creative and throw yourself into your lover.
Everything from rose petals on the bed to a quickie in the
office’s bathroom at 2:15 pm, will inspire the craving. Promote the
fascination and don’t worry too much if they like it, trust me, they do.
Let your partner peel off (or rip, whichever you prefer) your clothes and grant
that visual feast. People are visionary lovers and need to see bodies
responding to theirs. Initiate excitement. Honey, let them in! The interest is there. Expose yourself and allow them to devour you. I
assure you, your lover is totally aware of your presence and involvement. Tango
is a dance for two. Sometimes more, but that’s a totally different article.
They want all of you, not a limited portion of you. All sex is
agreeable but there are just some things that can’t be crossed unless specified
otherwise. I know some girls that enjoy a good hair pull; other girls don’t
even want that to be a consideration. Blowjobs are easy as long as the girl is
in control but if the guy wants to dominate the girl’s performance, it can be
most unpleasing for her. Missionary is good…for some. Leather and whips can be
kinky and sexy, but freaky to the rest. Some boundaries can be crossed.
Consent and limitations are discovered as the relationship advances.
Test the waters but be mindful as to how
you set your limits. Don’t demand from your lover; ease them into your desires,
introduce them to your likes. Identify one another. Tone sets everything; be
careful as to how you direct your lover in regards to your lovemaking. It’s a
sensitive subject that is somewhat bolstered by steely communication. Be clear
and teach your lover how to please you. Only you know what you like. Show them.
You don’t want that person to work hard for you, so why add
pressure? The key here is not to be selfish; it’s to share, to satisfy. Feed
them the drive to keep going, but don’t give them reasons to stop, drop, and
bounce. The importance here is that he/she feels they have all of you as it is
just as necessary for you to feel the same. Give permission for them to soak you
in. They’ll taste all of you by swimming into your character and bathing in
your skin.
As a woman, I realize that a lover will ultimately own our bodies.
Grab our curves, embrace the passion. It’s intimacy. It’s the feeling of mouth
on skin, breath of words, pleasure and entitlement. A woman’s body becomes an
obsession, a possession, and vice versa. Own my body and please it, praise it,
do what you will to keep me around, have me stay in your bed until the weekend
is over. Build the excitement.
Create the relationship and make it memorable. It doesn’t
have to last forever.
